5 best ways on how to be sincere-
- No half-hearted attempts, please.
- Don’t quit midway.
- The earlier the better.
- Make it a habit.
- Accept pain over temporary pleasure.
1) No half-hearted attempts, please
Any task which we undertake however trivial it may seem to be, it requires sincerity for completion and quality. So, whenever we take a task in hand we must be ready to pour in our heart and soul into it. One just cannot accomplish it with halfhearted attempts. It applies to so many things we do in life. Ask yourself whether you really want to do it. Take up the task with your own will and not because of pressure of any kind from anyone. There are fair chances then, that you will pour all your heart into that particular task if you yourself are willing to do it. Things done half-heartedly either don’t reach to completion or at times even if the task is completed the quality is pathetic. Half-hearted attempts will not make you a good mechanical engineer if your heart pines for photography and you are forcibly dumped into engineering. Same is true with the pasta you cook when you are tired and truly want to rest. The pasta will taste awful.
2) Don’t quit midway
Make it a habit to take any task to completion. Once you yourself have chosen to do the task, it becomes your responsibility. Every activity you start seems to be interesting initially. Later on monotony sets in, the mind gets diverted to something which you find more interesting for the time being or your lazy bones give up on the task in hand. Whatever the reason you try to justify, the fact is that you cannot pull on any longer. Many switch over to something else and here is how we fall short and sincere people reach the destination. A girl interested in kathak kick starts the kathak classes with full enthusiasm, but after cracking the third exam realizes that the swirls and footwork are getting tougher. She finds playing guitar more interesting and jumps over impulsively to the guitar classes. This is the time when we need to convince ourselves that I had chosen to do this particular activity. It is my choice and I need to complete it, however difficult it may seem to be now. Imagine the consequences and we will be in a better position to take the decision. If the girl in our example continues with the kathak classes, there is a dense possibility of her shinning as a “kathak dancer’ on completion of her visharad ( The last exam) but if she switches over to guitar, there is again a dense possibility of she quitting guitar as it gets tougher in the later stages, so she neither become a kathak dancer nor a guitarist. This is how people sink down in frustration.
3) The earlier the better
An earnest request to parents would be that try to develop this habit in your children as early as possible. That does not mean that you cannot develop the habit later on. It only means that it becomes easier when the mud is still wet and can be molded into the desired shape. After the particular shape is set, the mud is hard and dry, you yourself can imagine how difficult and messy things are going to be. A little bit of force may be required at the initial stages to inculcate the trait but that’s fine until you are strict and not harsh. That applies to yourself and your children as well. One more important point not to miss out is children learn by imitating you, so if you are sincere towards your profession or any other task, they automatically imbibe the trait.
4) Make it a habit
In whatever small or big things you do, try to be sincere. If we try to be sincere in everything we do, may it be our business, our profession, our hobby, our daily chores, anything and everything for that matter, it will soon become an inseparable part of our personality. It applies to all fields. That is how we find people who excel in not only their profession but also in sports, extracurricular activities and in almost all walks of life. I have discussed in my previous posts how stubborn habits are. It’s true that making a new habit is difficult but once formed and crystalized it dies hard. So, let us take advantage of this fact.
5) Accept pain over temporary pleasure
Accept the pain, complete the task and achieve the target or else fall prey to the temporary pleasure, leave the task half done and face the consequences of incomplete tasks, results not up to the mark, less monetary gains and a feeling of non-worthiness. It’s your choice. A little bit of pain to complete the task by shrugging off the laziness, putting in persistent efforts gives you immense satisfaction. That feeling itself is great. Moreover, people start trusting you and depending on you even in their difficult times. This gives a boost to your self-esteem and is there anything better than being that helping hand when someone desperately needs it. This gives you ample confidence to excel in any task undertaken. It will take you a long long way.
Be sincere in all walks of life and I am sure success will dance at your door steps.
I sign off for now, see you on Sunday with another ray of sunshine.
— Dr. Anu
International Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Corporate Trainer