(Be careful, labelling can be dangerous)
I often think, what will happen to our motherland if the same chaos continues. Are we in safe hands or is there any chance of us being in safe hands even later, is a debate which will go on and on. Not a die hard follower of “RaGa” or “NaMo” either, just want to bring to your notice one important point and it is regarding “Pappu”.
That “Pappu” who gave the silliest answers for issues so serious, that “Pappu” who displayed the weakest of the leadership traits, that “Pappu” who showed immaturity in handling the challenges posed upon his political party showed a paradigm shift from being a loser to a winner. The results of the elections of Madhya Pradesh, Chhattisgarh and Rajasthan say it loud and clear. Suddenly the ruling party has started recognizing him as a potential threat. That in itself is a big achievement.
Had this Pappu taken the loser image of his to heart, he would not have risen again, but fortunately he did not do so and hence could uplift himself from the pit so deep. My concern is “Can all the children, whom we push down the dark pit, rise again?” By rise I mean at least to the surface, if not to the peak of the hill. It’s really difficult for children to uplift themselves, once their own people have pushed them down the deep trench. We as parents, or uncles and aunts, don’t even realize when and how we label our children.
We label them simply as the “Best” or the “Worst”. Neither of the two is good for their mental health. Those labelled as “Best” have a superiority complex through out their lives and they tend to underestimate all the people around them, plus they become incapable of handling even a small defeat when it comes their way. Even more serious is the issue of those labelled as “Worst”. “You are dumb, you won’t be able to do it, with this amount of efforts I don’t think you will pass the exams, not your cup of tea, let him try he will do it better, I wonder what you will do in life” are some of the statements we keep on hammering on our children so casually that we don’t even realize that we are unknowingly labelling them as “Worst”. This label is taken so seriously by the little minds that their self esteem goes down in their very primitive and forming years. Whenever this child takes up a task, he reminds himself of the label put on him. Performing the task with this mental attitude makes the outcome worse. This again endorses the label and the cycle goes on. It becomes difficult for this child to do anything worthwhile in life. Are we not responsible? Of course yes. Instead of labelling the child as “Best” or “Worst”, we can just keep on encouraging the child, that you have a great potential and you can do it. This really makes a difference. We are unaware of the tremendous potential a child has and also equally tremendous scope of improvement which can happen, is beyond our imagination. Take care. Don’t label a child. This can prove to be dangerous in the long run.
And if you happen to be a victim of this label, remind yourself of the treasure of potential each one has and keep on sharpening your skills. Sky is the limit for improvement. Show it to the world that “Pappu “ is no longer a “Pappu” now and that is very much possible.
By Dr. Anu (International life coach, Motivational speaker and Corporate trainer)